Three little words... I love you!
"Those three little words, I LOVE YOU, often offer empty promises or come with multiple strings attached. Often, they are conditional. When I'm sitting with couples I ask them if they love each other. I ask him, and he says with tears in his eyes, YES. I ask her and she looks at him lovingly and echoes his response... YES.
By the end of the session, wherein they have blamed, criticized, judged and guilt their partner, I remind them that LOVE is simply not enough to keep a marriage (relationship) together. When I learn their history I find out that he walks away from her when she is complaining, nagging, yelling, spewing, and if I were to ask them then if they love each other I might get a very different answer."