To What End, Suffering

Center Street Coaching
November, 2014
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A Beautiful Prayer
I asked God to take away my habit…God said no.  It is not for me to take it away but for you to give it up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole….God said no.  His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience….God said no. Patience is a byproduct of tribulations.  It isn’t granted, it is learned and earned
I asked God to give me happiness….God said no.  I give you blessings; happiness is up to you.
I asked God to spare me pain…God said no.  Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.
I asked God to make my spirit grow…God said no.  You must grow on your own!  But I will prune you to make you fruitful.
I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life…God said no.  I will give you life so that you may enjoy all things.
I asked God to help me love others as much as God loves me…God said….ahhhh, finally you have the idea.
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Dear Reader:  
Maybe I’m obtuse or perhaps it is just my way of coping with life, but lately life seems to be hitting me between the eyes. I am more aware than ever of the suffering going on around me….no, not my own personal, egocentric, self-involved suffering….this is suffering of my friends, family, people I don’t even know, and, might I add, nations.  I feel it so intensely I am moved to attempt a deeper understanding of it, the “why” of it.  
So I have thought about suffering and this is what I have come up with.  

A child, just ten years old, is suffering a malignant brain tumor. The results of tests indicate the news is not good. It is growing. How do parents reconcile such tragedy, such random ravage of a young, innocent body? This child has hardly lived, certainly he is all that is deemed good in this world. He did not deserve this. “Why” is the desperate question. “Why” is what drives the despair.
Trivial answers are offered to provide solace to the parents and family. They are almost too painful to mention. Those answers don’t help. Seeking some one or some thing whereon to place the blame is to miss the purpose and answer to the why of such suffering. There is no apparent answer to what it is that causes innocent human beings and all earth’s creatures to be scathed with physical and emotional trauma. Perhaps the deeper answer is not in the cause of suffering but in the suffering itself.
The parents of this young child are doing their best to hold life together.  They are holding on to hope, they are bestowing love on their son.  The doctors are using all they know to save this child and he is held in the Divine Light of love and protection. Yet the question still begs, “why”.
Illness and suffering are part of an evolutionary journey of discovery.  Creation is not perfect; it is to become perfect.  We
are here to learn through suffering.  When there is suffering there is a drive to bring it to an end and in doing so there is healing.  It is the suffering that brings about global change and personal growth. The greater the suffering the greater the drive to bring about healing of minds and bodies and souls.  It can be healing in the way of a cure, peace, compassion, or freedom. The healing is an act of Divine Grace that is available to the sufferer and it takes huge faith to be open and receptive to that Grace.
My prayer and intention is that the parents and family of this young man are graced with all that God holds for them. May their faith bring them peace and understanding as they hold hope for the recovery of their child.
Whether you are suffering a loss, illness, disappointment, remember that there is value in the suffering.  Find the value and  use it so that the suffering was not for naught.
Our responsibility as humans on Earth is to move to enlightenment… is a journey.
“To those who believe…there are no questions
To those who  don’t….there are no answers”

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Marianne Harms, LCSW/CSW/Coach
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